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Age 31, Gender Male, Bi-curious.

I'd prefer it every day, but generally if I get it once or twice a week I don't complain too much. I have delayed ejaculation, so me having a climax only happens if she is willing to put forth effort into foreplay and making sure I feel good, which I have been told is rare to find in any gender or sexuality.

It's honestly a bit of a head-scratcher to me when I see Maj claim that Ess can't keep up with her, or see Koumei claim that once or twice a week is low, because of my personal experiences (where once every couple of months is normal for a woman, and people have sex every week "only in porn" as my last girlfriend said). I know, my personal experiences make me a statistical outlier so no need to say it, but I take words otherwise as seriously as I do when Mormons come to the door to tell me about Jesus. When I meet Jesus or get with a woman that has sex with me more frequently, I'll give it a more serious look.

32, Male, Straight.

On the weekends, when there is more time for that sort of thing, we have sex two or three times a day. On weekdays, we often go several days without doing it. It generally takes me about half an hour to an hour to ejaculate. It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

I find that if I've been having sex for more than forty five minutes or so, I sweat quite a bit. So these days I drink half a liter or more of water before and after. That reduces turnaround a lot.

-Username17

24, male straight. My desires shifts a lot. When I haven't had sex recently (IE, between relationships or casual hookups), it goes up; I start masterbating 10-20 times per week. When I get into a new relationship or a new casual hook up, sex 5-10 times per week.

However, when school and work are stressing me out, it goes down sharply. During essay and exam season, it's not unnown for me to just not bother for several weeks. If a relationship is going badly, so does my libido.

For example: Over the summer I was tree-planting. Few women around. Everything starts looking more and more attractive. Visit girlfriend for 3 days, spend entire time having sex. Find out I want "Casual relationship, have sex some and watch the occasional movie" and that she wants "Life partner, let's spend every night together." Try to reconcile, fail, repeatedly. During this episode, I grow less and less interested in sex.

We break up in the middle of essays; I don't do anything sexual for a week in a half or so. Then I went through six girls, pickups, having sex with each of them several times then moving on, in a couple weeks.

Then I went home for christmas and couldn't be bothered again.

I'm really inconsistent, and unfortunately, I'm sometimes made consciously aware of the fact that some of society thinks there is something wrong with me in any period where I don't sex constantly. I've occasionally been pressured into sex I don't really have the drive for, which of course, is basically the biggest turn-off ever, but part of a sexual relationship leaves me feeling like this is an obligation and I'm an abnormal if I don't meet someones desires constantly.

As fun as it'd be to join in this, my brother-in-law is Cynic, and not only do I not want him or my sister to know that kind of information, it will open up the hypothetical potential for me to hear about their sex life.

I shudder.

FrankTrollman wrote: It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

Is this Odango? Also, it kind of makes sense: plenty of people have a problem with the idea of "I just came in this person's mouth. I don't think I want to kiss those lips for quite some time."

That reduces turnaround a lot.

Much as I might regret this... what's turnaround?

Koumei wrote:

FrankTrollman wrote: It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

Is this Odango? Also, it kind of makes sense: plenty of people have a problem with the idea of "I just came in this person's mouth. I don't think I want to kiss those lips for quite some time."

That's what makes dating people who like their own sex awesome.

Koumei wrote:

FrankTrollman wrote: It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

Is this Odango? Also, it kind of makes sense: plenty of people have a problem with the idea of "I just came in this person's mouth. I don't think I want to kiss those lips for quite some time."

That reduces turnaround a lot.

Much as I might regret this... what's turnaround?

Turn around is the amount of time from ejaculation, to being hard again.

Usually, the older you get, the longer said time period gets. It's usually called 'recovery time'

sabs wrote:

Koumei wrote:

That reduces turnaround a lot.

Much as I might regret this... what's turnaround?

Turn around is the amount of time from ejaculation, to being hard again.

Usually, the older you get, the longer said time period gets. It's usually called 'recovery time'

As far as turnaround goes, I've noticed a big difference between "physical" and "mental" turnaround for me. Physical recovery isn't that long for me (well under an hour), but it takes a while for me to really be interested in it again (probably several hours).

This is probably hormones, I'd suspect.

Physical refractory period for me? About 15 minutes, give or take. Mentally? I'm ready to go immediately afterwards, although it takes a couple minutes before the General is ready to salute again. Usually, that's not an issue. Record for orgasms in a session is 7 for me, record for length of time is about 9 hours or so. At that point I was sore through the lower abdomen for about two weeks and I'm pretty sure I tore something there.

I have never been with a woman that didn't DEMAND to receive oral. It was a thing that was 100% assumed would happen and if it didn't, she'd throw a fit. I've also never been with a woman that didn't hate giving oral, in some cases even asking for it would cause an end to le sexahtimes right there. One woman I've been with used to bitch that I asked for it every time. I told her that means she should do it every time since I went down on her every time (and in many cases, that's all that happened: I went down on her and she wanted to fall asleep and give nothing back).

No need to point out that these are my personal experiences because I am aware of that.

Prak_Anima wrote:

Koumei wrote:

FrankTrollman wrote: It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

Is this Odango? Also, it kind of makes sense: plenty of people have a problem with the idea of "I just came in this person's mouth. I don't think I want to kiss those lips for quite some time."

That's what makes dating people who like their own sex awesome.

Results may vary, the bi women I've dated weren't a lot of fun. Not to say there are no fun bi women, I just have never met any.

Count Arioch the 28th wrote:Physical refractory period for me? About 15 minutes, give or take. Mentally? I'm ready to go immediately afterwards, although it takes a couple minutes before the General is ready to salute again. Usually, that's not an issue. Record for orgasms in a session is 7 for me, record for length of time is about 9 hours or so. At that point I was sore through the lower abdomen for about two weeks and I'm pretty sure I tore something there.

I have never been with a woman that didn't DEMAND to receive oral. It was a thing that was 100% assumed would happen and if it didn't, she'd throw a fit. I've also never been with a woman that didn't hate giving oral, in some cases even asking for it would cause an end to le sexahtimes right there. One woman I've been with used to bitch that I asked for it every time. I told her that means she should do it every time since I went down on her every time (and in many cases, that's all that happened: I went down on her and she wanted to fall asleep and give nothing back).

No need to point out that these are my personal experiences because I am aware of that.

There are multi orgasmic women, and there are non-multi orgasmic women. My ex wife is the latter, my girlfriend is the former. For people with delayed orgasm, who literally might need to go an hour or more, the latter really suck. The former are sadly, pretty hard to find.

A lot of women can be trained to be multi-orgasmic. I've only met one woman that I couldn't manage, but I think it was her mindset. She told me she wanted to have control of everything so she could get off because she didn't trust anyone to do it correctly. Unfortunately, that meant she climaxed once in about 3 minutes and didn't want anything else for another 2-3 weeks. The very last time I had sex with her, I told her that it sucked she couldn't delay her own pleasure so I can have a good time, and the idea of not being satisfied combined with the fact we'd have to wait another month before she wanted it again made me feel very depressed.

Harsh, I know. But at that point, I was tired of biting things back and didn't think she gave enough for me to put up with her horseshit. Like the time she bitched about how fat she was for nearly an hour, then said she looked like a whale. I replied "No you don't, honey! Whales are 20 feet long and have flippers!". Again, a bit cold but I was tired of hearing her bitch and tired of propping up her damn ego. You'd think a doctor would have more confidence in herself, but you'd think wrong.

Count Arioch the 28th wrote:Like the time she bitched about how fat she was for nearly an hour, then said she looked like a whale. I replied "No you don't, honey! Whales are 20 feet long and have flippers!"

I admit, I lol'd.

sabs wrote:There are multi orgasmic women, and there are non-multi orgasmic women. My ex wife is the latter, my girlfriend is the former. For people with delayed orgasm, who literally might need to go an hour or more, the latter really suck. The former are sadly, pretty hard to find.

I got lucky in that my wife is the former and my ex-girlfriend was the latter. It certainly makes my current life easier.

I don't think the universe will allow me to have good sex. However, I am willing to settle for someone I get along with and is nice to me.

Ess' libido doesn't keep up with mine

We really suck at quickies.

I think I prefer intimacy to the actual climax part of sex. Cuddling, the act of sex itself/foreplay, just being comfortable enough with someone that you can lean over and use her bosom as a pillow, etc.

It takes considerable cajoling on my part to get my fiancee to allow me to eat her out, because while she finds it enjoyable she also thinks it's "yuck" and something I "don't have to do".

All of these match up more or less with my own experience and preferences.

Koumei wrote: Is this Odango?

Yes. I am going to marry one of the teachers at my school.

-Username17

Koumei wrote:Maj: it doesn't take two to tango

I find masturbation about as sexually satisfying as trying to get gum unstuck from my hair.

Back when Ess and I were college students, we use to joke that lust was like top ramen with no noodles - all flavor, no substance - and love was like top ramen with no flavor packet - all substance, no flavor. Now that we're out of college, we realize that top ramen was probably a bad example, but the point still stands.

Kaelik wrote:You would get out of bed because having sex in the same bed for several days is unclean and/or a little stale.

I should hope that most people own at least two sets of sheets.

FrankTrollman wrote:

Koumei wrote: Is this Odango?

Yes. I am going to marry one of the teachers at my school.

Congratulations! And does this mean we can all ship House/Usagi (what with Usagi being the original Odango-chan, and general consensus declaring you to be an orange-clad House)?

Maj: the ramen comparison works pretty well. Also, true about the sheets, but I'd like to see someone try to change the sheets without getting out of bed.

Koumei wrote:Also, true about the sheets, but I'd like to see someone try to change the sheets without getting out of bed.

This is funny, but brings up too many images of my aunt - who never got out of bed... Including to go to the bathroom.

And that's gross, so we're not going there. Let's just assume there were five minutes for a sheet swap.

I own exactly one set of sheets. I got stuck with a bed that my ex wife had custom made to fit a waterbed frame (because to her it made sense to spend an extra grand on a mattress that you couldn't find sheets for rather than buy a new frame, and mattresses are too freaking expensive for me to replace until I get a real job, which is most likely going to be never).

I do in fact wash them for what it's worth, but it's a bit of a pain when you don't own your own washer/dryer.

Also, about the ramen comparison: That's all I've had for my entire life. It pretty much has to satisfy because I have trouble finding someone that will put in the effort to satisfy me. I saw my last GF for a year and a half and she only bothered to get me off once in that entire time.

I have two sets of sheets and have them washed regularly. And that is the only question I am answering .

So, because sex is such a boring topic, let's talk about death. I have a certain relative who is in the ground, but I do not know where and would like to find out. I have names (multiple, there were multiple marriages and divorces and separations, and I'm not actually sure what the name legally was at the time of death), a fuzzy location, fuzzy date of death, and fuzzy date of birth.

What are my options here, and what are my odds?

There are ways to search public records on the interwebs. Seems pretty straightforward if the relative died in the last 100 years or so.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=death+records

http://www.archives.com/GA.aspx?_act=De ... hwodHxwOnA

http://death-records.net/

http://www.publicdeathrecords.net/